My boyfriend refuses to compromise. 50. We recently had to put that on hold for now due to financial problems. As much as I enjoy a night in, I love socializing and being out with my friends. You might be fuming ― “We haven’t even seen our relatives in months.What makes you think I want to break quarantine by hanging out with Kevin and his family?” ― but slow down.There’s no urgent need to talk about it right then and there. I can’t and won’t continue to feel this, or blame him for my unhappiness in this area. Intolerant. I think everyone goes through periods in a relationship when it’s all about one partner. I need less in order to thrive and create. Exercise your right to say “no”. It should worry you if your partner doesn’t care about your opinion, isn’t willing to take “no” for an answer or guilt trips you into making decisions, Burns said. Furthermore, I don't know what I'd do if my partner wasn't into going out. I can't count the number of times that my husband and I have had to compromise in our marriage. Simply put, win-wins are solutions where both people walk away happy. They just aren’t in love with you anymore, and you aren’t in love with them anymore. You can move on by moving on. Compromise is essential in any healthy relationship. It creates resentment and gives the "attitude" spouse a feeling of superiority in the marriage. It sounds so simple, but the act of negotiating a win-win is actually fairly complex. My partner and I met when we were teenagers and have been … The concept of minimalism clicks with me in a big way. Usually a problem starts like this: he usually says something rude or unnecessary and I get upset and try to see where he came from with that. While you want to please your partner, you must expect that you won’t always be able to meet his or her every need or demand. Honestly, the my way or the highway attitude is not healthy in a marriage. Home→Forums→Relationships→Partner won't compromise New Reply This topic contains 2 replies, has 2 voices, and was last updated by anita 1 year, 9 months ago. My resentment is not good, and it makes me feel like I’m a mean-spirited person. ... and that’s when it’s time to compromise or accept that the relationship won’t work for you. I don't feel safe there, and have tried living there before. So instead of agreeing to things that compromise yourself, I invite you and your partner to consider the idea of finding win-wins. >>"My partner avoid confrontation" 4. Ok. My husband and I moved to pittsburgh 7 months ago to go to culinary. ... the word compromise won't feel negative or scary at all, but rather a vital ingredient to your happy union. LW, if that period is more like the entire length of your relationship move on asap. Viewing 3 posts - 1 through 3 (of 3 total) Author Posts August 2, 2018 at 9:04 am #219981 bambamParticipant Would love some feedback on this situation. The desire to find the right partner can lead you to overlook red flags. Make your own priority list . I tend to remain calm and ask questions about what he just said (which is what he said he hates...) Then he gets even worst and refuses to see what he just said was wrong! Forgiveness is your choice, and I won’t shame you for forgiveness, but in my opinion, you can forgive someone without ever being in a relationship with them ever again. When we got together I moved 4 hours away from all my family and friends just to … He just decided he wanted to move to Cleveland because thats where his family is and where he feels safe. I won’t try to change him, only myself. Maybe you’re bothered that your spouse just sprung it on you that he wants to take you and the kids boating with a co-worker this weekend. For example, if you are really busy and your spouse asks for a favor, you might say “I’m sorry, I can’t right now, honey. 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